It’s Okay to Be Kind and the Buck/Blessing Moon this week remind us of that.

Happy Magnificent, Mellow, Manifesting, Magickal Monday!

How were your celebrations?  I stayed low key on Canada Day as my quad is torn, so being around 70,000 people was not my jam.

And with a torn quad I couldn’t go walk in the Pride parade, but I could go watch, which was fabulous.

Okay, let’s have a brief chat about resentment, forgiveness and being kind, shall we?

After all we have the Blessing Full Moon on July 10th – so let’s frigging do it!

So I had an interesting experience this week.  First off it’s my nature to be kind and to help where I can, hence why I work as a counsellor, lay chaplain, spiritual guide, assist people as they are dying, healing, birthing with ritual and love. Okay?

So one of my boys phoned to let me know my ex-husband had moved here into basically a shit pit and had hip surgery at 54 years old on July 2nd, and could I please help him get the space together (I mean there weren’t even frigging appliances in the space!)

Appreciating I haven’t really talked to my ex husband for 20 years as he turned our marriage into an abusive, narcissistic, toxic festival – which was why I left with 5 kids and walked away.

But I’ve done a lot of work and forgiveness around that marriage, and I am grateful for the children that we created (and believe me, when I say a lot of work – I mean a lot of work of letting go of old stories, abuse, diminishment etc!)

So when my boyyo asked for help with this, of course my response was YES!

Why?  

Because as I said – I have done the work which is some of what I teach.  I don’t hold resentment, to me it’s a person who needs help.  

So yes, I can go clean the shit hole and make it presentable before he gets out of hospital.

Yes, I can make soups galore and healthy snacks to support him through this healing process.  

Yes, I can grab him a microwave and a kettle (remember, no appliances) and boyyo is grabbing a small fridge.  So he can heal, eat and thrive.

Interestingly enough when I talked to my best friend and told her that I was doing this, she railed all over me!  “Don’t  you remember the broken bones, don’t you remember the toxic emails, don’t you remember…………”

Yes, I do.  

“You can’t do this, he would never do it for you!”

No he wouldn’t (he’s a narcissist).  But that’s his path, not mine.

It’s okay to be kind as long as you aren’t doing it out of a caretaking energy or a people pleasing.

As humans, we are all interdependent and connected and we can only do what we can do.  But holding onto resentment, judgement and the stories one has created are toxic to you, not them.

So I am choosing to be kind, as he is a human being – but more so for my kids sake as they were the ones that asked.  

Over the years I have sent this man Blessings galore, as one of the most powerful gifts you can give someone is a Blessing.  

Now when I use the word Blessing, I’m not talking about the Bible interpretation.  

One of my favourite authors, John O’Donohue, says that a blessing is an innovation, a calling forth.  

The word may is often used in blessings because it imagines and wills the fulfillment of desire.

It’s more a case of calling in grace, love, something bigger than myself to offer support, and let’s be honest – you can offer up a Blessing for anything. 

 It could be a person who you feel has done you wrong, you can bless those that you see struggling, you can bless a situation, you can bless a meal.  It’s the inviting in of something far, far bigger than yourself to enter the space with loving kindness.  

I find it super powerful, give Blessing a try.  What do you have to lose?

Being Kind, Blessings and the Solstice energy tie in deliciously with the Buck/Blessing Moon energy which is coming in on July 10th..

The spiritual meaning of this Moon is a powerful time for abundance, strength, passion and blessings.  

This moon is a lovely time to reflect on your life and decide what steps you’d like to take next. What vistas are you willing to perceive in your life? What are you open to?

Make time for fun and joy! Turn off technology and be present in the joyous season of summer. 

Find activities that fill up your soul with happiness and pleasure as this is when blessings galore come flooding in.

The full moon illuminates a time of heightened emotions and potent creativity.

There is nothing quite like being outside under the light of a full moon. The full moon has been the inspiration for poetry, songs, and movies, (remember the 1987 classic Moonstruck?) The full moon’s spiritual meaning illuminates a time of heightened emotions and potent creativity.

When the moon is fully illuminated by the sun’s rays, the view from Earth is that of a complete orb, seemingly emitting its own light. Time spent under this reflected light of the full moon has the power to be transformational, intense, and inspiring. It can also add intensity to whatever emotions are living in you, so it’s helpful to be intentional about what you are focusing on.

The full moon offers an opportunity to sit in the fullness of your life. It is a time to feel deep gratitude for the many blessings you have and experience. 

Now enough chuntering from me, let’s crack on with the reading.   When I went to the cards to ask who would like to be present this week it made my heart smile to see who showed up.  The amazing Faery Blessing guides were most adamant.  As after all, who doesn’t need a Blessing?

Now if these guides are new to you, please let me introduce them as it would be rude not to.

Faeries are present in every droplet of water, every blade of grass – they are everywhere there is a trace of nature – thus every field, flower, and forest is theirs.  They inhabit the wild rainforests and the old castles; they dance within standing stones and burial mounds; they are on the top of mountains and within the grove deep in the valley; and they appear in the cracks in the pavement and beneath the cities in the old, tangled tree roots.  Faeries are part of this world, and they were here before we were born into this world, and they know us better than we know ourselves.  

For humans, many of us have lost our sense of play, our sense of relationship with nature, our courage to be ourselves – as well as our hope, creativity, and personal power.  We have looked outside of ourselves and nature and the sacred ones for answers, and in doing so, we have become quite lost.  The blessings of the faeries can bring us back into relationship with ourselves, back into relationship with the elements and the elementals, so that we can become more at home within the world, while creating a personal world which supports our dreams, our wishes, and our purpose.  

Yes!  Positively perfect!

So gorgeous one take a breath.  Just a normal breath and then as you carry on breathing allow it to slow down.  Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Allow in your mind’s eye a gorgeous rainbow swirl to form, this pattern is made of loss and abundance.  It holds any anger, resentment or grief you may feel about a person, place, situation or thing and it melds with the abundance and appreciation of who you are.  As you breathe just let it swirl, you don’t have to control it.  

Then with this energy pick the card or cards that call to you.  What Blessing is for you this week?

Did you remember to pick?

Shall we go look?

A BLESSING FROM QUEEN MAB

The Faery Gift of Being the Ruler of Your Own World

With this faery gift from the formidable and enchanting faery queen, Queen Mab, comes the blessing of being the owner of your own life.  This is a powerful blessing indeed, for with this blessing comes the most precious gift of all, that of knowing that your life is yours to live.  

With this blessing, let you now take up the reins of your life, let you decide what it is you do, and who it is you are, and who you are now becoming.  It is your life, this wild and sweet thing, to be lived only once, and it is rare and priceless.  You shall no longer be owned, nor forced, nor pushed, nor pulled, for with her gift comes the solidity of determining your own fate – for you are a being who has often been pressured to give away the crown that declares that you are the sovereign.  With this blessing, it is returned to you.

Let yourself be a queen, a king, and know your world is as great as any other person’s.  Your life is a jewel, and no more shall you spend it pleasing others.  When this blessing comes to you, all who you know you will love and support you, and you will now take back the power that you gave away.  You will climb the stairs to your throne and look upon your world and know that you will be a strong leader of your own soul.  And you will inspire others to do the same.

With this gift from Queen Mab will come the sure knowledge of what is wise for you to do, and what would be foolish, and to know the difference between pleasing others and doing what is in the very best interest of the path of your soul.

You faery friend, are a magnificent being, and your life, your world, and your very being are royal.  Be most loyal to your ownself, and know now the gift of great and deep self-respect, and of choosing what is right for you.

Blessings of the great and good Queen Mab to you, friend.

BLESSED BE

A BLESSING OF A FAERY GUARDIAN

A Faery Gift of Magickal Protection and Lifelong, True Loving Care.

At your birth into this world, human child, a faery came to you and offered you the blessings of your soul.  For each of us, this blessing will be unique, created especially for the journey we are destined to take in this lifetime.  So, with this blessing, may you know again the beauty and sweetness of your own faery godmother, your faery guardian.  For she is still with you, helping to ease the way and remind you, as often as she is able to pierce the veil, that you are her charge, and she will remain with you all the days of this life.

May you now feel the presence of her love; may you feel that sense of being looked out for, that there is one being from the elemental world who works with your soul and helps you at all times.  

When this blessing comes, tune in to her presence and know that all about you there is comfort, and goodness, and a way to move through all difficulties.  Yoru faery guardian has always been with you this lifetime, and will remain until you have journeyed on.  Know you are her most precious charge, and when times become troubled, and life seems bleak, know there is a being whose duty it is to bring you back to hope, to optimism, to the sense that you are a gifted, cherished being.  Feel now the love of the faery guardian, your own faery godmother, and believe again in your own blessedness.  

BLESSED BE

A BLESSING OF CLEAR FORESIGHT

The Faery Gift of Knowing what is likely to come from the dimension we humans call the future.

A gift is given this day to you, a blessing of the faeries true.  This gift is that of the long vision, the ability to see the consequences of actions taken in the present and, indeed, the outcome of decisions of the past.  With this blessing of clear foresight, may you be blessed with the ability to see the lasting influence of what it is you choose to do – what will you be granting to the future of this world, to the children, to the ones who come after.

May you understand, therefore, what would be best for you to do, not only for your own self – though it is good and right for you to think of yourself – but of what is best for those  you love and for those who come after us all.  For the faeries love long, and see many a human unable to contemplate beyond their own needs – and, in that moment, unthinking of consequences, create a future they do not wish to inhabit fully.  With this amazing faery gift, this enchanted ability to see further into the dimension of time, you will make the best decision for yourself now and for the future and the future of others.  Time unfurls before you, a green scroll unwritten upon, but one upon which you can see what could come.  

Take this blessing and use it wisely, for the fae, for the human children, and for the betterment of your own precious self.  

Faery blessings of the long foresight to you, friend.

BLESSED BE

And so it is.  May your week be filled with Blessings galore. 

May you have strong boundaries but still be kind.  Huge Blessings and smooches!